Why Run a Half Marathon

Early this year I wrote a blog post explaining why I would not run a marathon. Alas, today´s post is about why on November 20, God willing, I will run my first half marathon.

On the one hand, long-distance running is eerily similar to:

o   Raising kids

o   Writing books

o   Trying to publish those books!

o   Having a relationship

o   Life´s challenges

The reasons why I’ve officially registered for the half-marathon and started training: 

o   Because I want to know what it feels like to cross the finish line after running 13 miles with hundreds or thousands of other runners

o   Because the discipline of training spills into my writing career

o   Because I´m going to write about it and it´s the only way to do it with authority

o   Because it´s not quite the same to overcome an obstacle or reach a goal because you have to than because you set out to do it, willingly.  

It doesn´t need to be a half or even a full marathon. What goal are you willing to take on because you want to and not because you have to?  

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Diario del Éxito (Success Diaries) will be published in book form late in 2011 by ediciones Obelisco.

On Age and Running ... Out of Time

Pic by my daughter. Aug. 2011

Abraham Lincoln said that by forty you have the face you deserve.

Today I turn 48, and I´m ok with what I see when I smile into the mirror, dimples, crows-feet and all. I wish I had liked myself as much when I was 15, when instead I felt ugly and inadequate. Alas, The perks of youth are often wasted on the young!

Just in case I may be deluded, I ask my friends that if they ever see me wearing blue eyeshadow, black eyeliner and false eyelashes, caking on the makeup, teasing my hair and wearing leopard tights at 70, to please slap me. That´s what friends are for! Only Cher can pull that off – for now, anyway.

I don´t believe life begins at 40 or at 50 but I also know I´m not the same person I was at 18, 28 or 38. At 18 I dreaded turning 20 and at 48 I´m ok with nearing 50. In fact, I´m looking forward to it.

After my training run - Aug.25.2011

Of course there is a “but”: I´m running out of time. We all are. I suspect that´s the reason why I don’t watch TV. It´s a HUGE time-waster. There are so many other things to do; in my case there are books to write, kids to raise, races to run, places to see, people to love. My Spanish grandmother will be 95 in January – I need to visit her soon.

If I momentarily feel over the hill (like next to a 20-year old at a club), I remind myself that one day I will look back at the picture taken today after my run and think: “I was so young then”, so I better relish that now.

At 48 I´m running my first half-marathon in November … Maybe at 50 I´ll run my first marathon. In the meantime, I´ll take one day at a time. I hope you do too.

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David Perry on Being a Successful Connector

David Perry is the CEO / founder of David Perry & Associates, Inc., an award-winning full service communications firm with international reach based in San Francisco. DP&A’s specialties include community and government affairs, social media, public/media relations, crisis communications, web and graphic design and a full suite of video production and special event services.

Perry serves on the Board of Directors for ChinaSF whose goal is to attract and retain Chinese investment and business expansion into San Francisco and the Bay Area, and to also support San Francisco Bay Area businesses in their business efforts in China. With offices in Beijing, Shanghai & San Francisco, ChinaSF is a public-private initiative of the San Francisco Center for Economic Development (SFCED), in close partnership with the City of San Francisco’s Office of Economic and Workforce Development (OEWD), supported by funding from private sector partners.

He was kind enough to carve out some time to share his views of success and productivity in the following interview:

LCL.-  What is your definition of success and have you achieved it?

DP.- I remember after my mother died, finding a scrap of paper in her desk in her handwriting that said: "Success is a journey, not a destination." That has stuck with me for the last 34 years. Success is doing work you enjoy and feeling that you've contributed something to the common good, no matter how small. It's self-measured, not gauged by others.

LCL.- How do you help others become successful by means of your services?

DP.- I'm what the book The Tipping Point refers to as a "connector." I like putting people together: media with clients; clients with customers; friends with friends. My job is, as I say in my firm's tagline, is to "create dialogue fearlessly." I don't believe anyone can truly control anything -- certainly not in the realm of public relations or communications. Communications are not controllable, but you can help create an environment in which informed conversations takes place. That's what I do for our clients and colleagues.

LCL.- What does a typical day look like for you?

DP.- Like right now -- 6:30am: hour of reading news and social media posts on my iPhone, huddled in the dark in bed with coffee on one side and husband on the other.

8am: gym (unless some early morning crisis averts that discipline)

9am-6pm: client correspondence / email and the deluge begins. I'm a great believer in "to do" lists and every time I have an idea I type it into my daily calendar so that I don't forget it. Typical day involves advising clients on media strategy; setting up a media preview or launch for a client and in-between actually writing original copy / text about a project. And -- always -- throughout the day I'm talking / e-chatting with members of the press and sharing info about our clients. Every one of our clients gets "pitched" in some way, every day. I have a number of standing meetings with clients but if I can, I avoid them. Most meetings are deadly and inefficient for advancing a real workload. I'm constantly getting info via social media and email and much prefer one-on-one and short exchanges of info to old-fashioned business confabs. In the evening, although I'm often pulled into an after work networking or client event, I'm home with my contact lenses off, feet up and laptop on my lap checking to see what "to do" list items got digitally crossed off. Weekends -- one day of nothing and one day to be proactive about work projects, think and create original written content.

LCL.- Do you believe in balance (family/work)?

DP.- Yes. My husband and family come first. I love my work but the main reason I love it is because it gives me a life that is creative, diverse and helps support my at-home reality. Balance isn't always "1/2 work”.

LCL.-  What would you tell others who want to live a successful life but feel they aren’t quite there yet?

DP.- Breathe and stop complaining: nothing ever got achieved by negativity or fear. This isn't mystical advice - it's practical. Whatever you're feeling negative about, stop and ask yourself: what have I got going in my life that's positive? The fact is: anyone reading this article has more advantages and gifts than 98?% of the world's population. Use those gifts to help others, and be patient with yourself.

LCL.- What have you yet have to do in life?

DP.- Take a full year to do nothing but write. That, I would like to do. My favorite writer is P.D. James, who didn't start her (incredible) writing career until after she finished a 30-year stint working in the British civil service. I'm hoping I get the same chance!

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Success Diaries will be published as a book (Diario del Exito) by ediciones Obelisco late in 2011. 

13 Reasons to Run

I started running when I was 12. I still remember the burning feeling in my chest, the pain in my legs and the extreme fatigue because I didn´t know how to pace myself. Still, at the end of that run I felt good: my pre-adolescent difficulties seemed to wane after having accomplished the difficult task of running.

36 years later I still run regularly. So far, running has helped me overcome many challenges to include a broken heart, separation, divorce, financial strife, unemployment and more. 

Why I run:

-       It´s free

-       You can do it anytime, anywhere

-       It doesn´t require fancy equipment other than a good pair of running shoes

-       It´s a great way to explore new surroundings

-       It can be a form of meditation

-       It´s an excellent cardiovascular workout

-       You can do it alone or with someone else

-       You can run while you push a baby stroller

-       Running helps produce endorphins, which are a mood enhancer

-       The discipline of running spills into other areas of your life

-       It helps keep your weight in check

-       It´s a great conversation piece

-       It beats getting hammered

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Rollerblading Life Lessons

Sunday I unpacked my rollerblades – that hadn´t been used in at least three years – and decided to take the kids to a nearby parking lot so I could revive the feeling of being on wheels, while they skated or biked beside me.

I´m a runner, not a skater, but I enjoy skating because it´s a challenge. Years ago I broke my tailbone after a bad fall, but that didn´t prevent me from snapping those wheels on my feet again. I do, however, wear protections every time.

As I started gliding on the concrete again, I felt rusty, but then I remembered the little tricks that make rollerblading (and goal setting, and life) happen:

-      Practice falling before you start skating. Having a plan helps you recover sooner from any fall in life.

-       Lean forward into the skates, to avoid falling backwards. Lean into problems in life instead of resisting them.

-       Keep your eyes on your destination. Just doing that helped me turn and make figure 8´s again. In life, don´t lose sight of your goals, and eventually you will reach them.

-       Relax your body, stay calm, engage only the muscles that need to be engaged. In life, relax your body, stay calm, engage the muscles and senses that need to be engaged. In both cases, this prevents exhaustion.

-       Enjoy the ride. In life, enjoy the ride.

The picture was taken by my 10-year old, who wore my skates right after I did and after I gave her the few pointers above, she glided away from me as if she had done it her whole life. I hope she keeps it up both on rollerblades and in life.

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Sharing Difficulties Helps Overcome Them

No matter how many self-help books you read, how many positive affirmations you chant, or how often you tell yourself that you build your own reality, there will be times in life when you feel that none of this is helping you to improve your situation.

If you have no work, no money to pay the bills, if your marriage is in shambles, you have health problems and your best friend turned her back on you, it´s not easy to smile.

Something I learned when I experienced some of the previous circumstances all at once, is that if you share your problems with others, they become more bearable. Not only that, but you open yourself to the possibility of receiving a helping hand. After all, if those around you don´t know you´re going through a rough patch, how can they offer to help?

Pride doesn´t fill your pantry nor does it solve problems. On the other hand, there is no reason to be embarrassed because you´re going through difficulties, no matter what they are. When I dared to share my own challenges with others, I received help I never asked for, and that, I will be forever grateful for.  

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Celebrate Your Achievements

Give a man health and a course to steer, and he'll never stop to trouble about whether he's happy or not. - George Bernard Shaw

Every time you set out to achieve something and manage to do it, whether it’s losing ten pounds, running a marathon, getting your college degree or being faithful to your workouts, you strengthen your character. Celebrate every stepping-stone, because you’re worth it. Set aside false modesty and never underestimate your achievements. Acknowledge your successes without flaunting them, but do acknowledge them. If you don’t see yourself as a writer, a painter or a dancer, for instance, how can you expect others to?  

Achieving a goal implies overcoming a self-imposed challenge; it means that you were able to discipline yourself and make short-term sacrifices in order to reap the benefits of delayed gratification. It’s also more commendable to reach a goal that you set for yourself because you wanted to, than a goal someone else – your boss, for instance – set for you.  

What goals, big or small, have you achieved in life? What about last year? What goals would you like to reach in the next six months? And next year? In five years?  

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Mamiverse - for Latina Moms, the Hottest Demographic

Club Mami is a new social network for moms, embedded in Mamiverse, the new portal for English-speaking Latina moms. These are moms whose parents or grandparents hail from Spanish countries, but they may themselves have been born in the U.S. Their main language is English, although they are proud of their roots. According to the Daily Beast, Latina moms are the hottest demographic,¨ and we are gaining ground everywhere.

Being proud of one´s heritage breeds success, not only for ourselves, but for our children. Some Latinas do speak Spanish, as you can read in other sites, such as La Cosmopolatina, and even Spanglish.

Being bilingual and bicultural myself, I enjoy mingling with other Latinas, both online and in real life.

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Kettlebell Training Madrid® helps you stay in shape when visiting Spain

Some people stand by their dreams no matter what, and make them come true. Kettlebell Training Madrid® is the product of the commitment of Gastón Giorlando and Sandra Carbonell, both certified personal trainers and certified TRX® and Kettlebell trainers in Spain. Following is my interview with them.

LCL.-  How did the project Kettlebell Training Madrid® start?

KTM.- It was a result of our stay in Florida, where we experienced the fitness craze that is not as prevalent in Spain. There are the two extremes in the U.S.: people seem to either let themselves go or exercise to exhaustion. When we moved to Spain three years ago we realized there was a gap to be filled in the fitness field, and that we could fill it by teaching Kettlebell training. We had already experienced its benefits ourselves.

Sandra Carbonell

LCL.- What are Kettlebells and why did you choose them as a fitness routine? 

KTM.- A kettlebell is a Russian weight. They are round and have a flat base and a handle. We chose this as a fitness routing because training with kettlebells involves the whole body, unlike a gym workout, which is intended to isolate different muscle groups.

There are many benefits: you lose body fat faster than with a traditional training routine.  It tones and strengthens your muscles while giving your flexibility and resistance. It´s also a good cardiovascular workout, and therefore you can get all-over results faster. You can train anywhere with just one workout tool.

LCL.- What services do you offer?

KTM.- Seminars and training courses for personal trainers, martial arts experts, instructors, sports enthusiasts, athletes, martial arts specialists, gyms, and anybody who is interested in all-over fitness. Anybody can benefit from this type of training.

LCL.- What has been your greatest challenge? 

Gastón Giorlando

KTM.- It´s been hard to break into the fitness market in Spain. This sector is slowly embracing this type of training.

LCL.- And your greatest satisfaction?

KTM.- Seeing our clients satisfied and improving their physical shape. Our students acquire knowledge and technique that are hard to come by in Spain. Training with kettlebells requires proper technique and regular practice.   

LCL.- What would you tell someone who wants to shape up?

KTM.- First, they need to establish a clear goal and find out what their options are and not stick only to conventional forms of exercise. They should try kettlebell training and if they like it, they will soon be hooked, while getting in shape.

LCL.- What would you tell someone who has a dream that others are trying to squelch? 

KTM.- We all have dreams and it is up to each one of us to pursue them or accept what others believe. We believe in pursing the dream. If you are true to it, you will make it happen.  

KTB and their students

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Spanish publishing house thrives during the recession - Jirones de azul.

Interview with Rosa García Perea, Coria del Río (Sevilla) 1965

Rosa García Perea is a Spanish poet, author of “Las tres miradas del Cíclope” and “Como las manos de Pandora”, amongst others. She has taught Creative Writing and is now at the helm of the publishing house Editorial Jirones de Azul together with Esperanza García. Her first novel, Mesa para una (Table for one) will be published in October.

LCL.- What is your definition of success?

RGP.- Success is the unexpected prize you get after years of working hard and when you´ve almost stopped believing your project will come through.

LCL.- Do you think you´ve achieved it?

RGP.- I will say what Oscar Wilde said: a fool never recovers from success. That´s why I like to believe that I haven´t achieved it yet. It´s but a mirage.

LCL.- When and why did you launch the publishing house Jirones de Azul?

RGP.- Jirones started out as an e-zine in 2004, and then went to print version in 2006. In 2005 I turned 40 and I didn´t want to let such a significant age fly by without making one of my dreams come true. I also thought Seville, Spain was in need of a publishing house that opened the doors to new voices. So the first business day of 2006, I did the paperwork to establish my company. The first few months were hard, but special. I would do it all over again.

LCL.- What were your biggest challenges?

RGP.- Even though I had worked in marketing, I didn´t know the publishing business. It was also undergoing a shift – from paper to digital. And in 2006, one of the worst global recessions hit. It was like trying to sell books in a war zone.

But instead of backing off, we took it as a challenge and it´s made us stronger and be more professional. We´ve learned the hard way and every time we fall, we get up with more enthusiasm.

LCL.- And the biggest satisfactions?

RGP.- Professionally, looking back and seeing that in five years we´ve put over 200 titles out there. Many have become best-sellers, by first-time authors. Personally, when I see my team, smiling and full of energy. That erases any doubts I may have.

LCL.- What personal qualities have helped you start and keep your publishing house going?

RGP.- Mainly perseverance and knowing that I have to get up as fast as possible when I fall. Whining won´t take you places. Having a sense of humor is a must. There is nothing more important than having a sense of humor.

LCL.- What haven´t you done yet?

RGP.- Professionally, I have a lot to left to do. I´m 46 and I would start any project from stratch. I like a challenge.

Personally, I haven´t lived as much as I´d have liked to. My life is full, but I´ve missed out on personal satisfaction by putting a lot into my profession. And I´m missing children. I won´t have them, but they would have made my life fuller. I´m sure they would not have taken one bit away from my professional life.

LCL.- What would you say to those who have dreams they haven´t accomplished yet?

RGP.- Not to be afraid of their mistakes. You learn more from your mistakes than from your success. To surround themselves with good people, those that help you feel good. There is only one secret for success: work and good energy. It´s so simple that it seems impossible.  

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